Story of Hope: Matthew

Enter CASA advocate Joanna Skidmore. Joanna immediately sought ways to make a connection with this child that already has difficulties connecting with the world. She learned that he enjoyed trains, puzzles, stuffed teddy bears and watching movies. During the Christmas holiday, Joanna obtained a wooden train which she and Matthew were able to paint together, which he loved. On some visits, they would just sit and watch movies together, and Matthew slowly became so comfortable with her presence, that he would sit next to her closely.

Prior to the COVID-19 protocols, Joanna would visit with Matthew at least once in the home but also observed the bi-monthly parent/child visits that were supervised at the CPS offices. She was able to observe the changes in Matthew mother’s interactions with him. Once his mother participated in parenting classes for autism, she began the fully understand her child’s needs. 

Once the COVID-19 protocols began, Joanna found ways to continue to connect to this special child. She would drop off popsicles at his home, and then arrange Face-Time chats so that they could eat their popsicles together. Joanna understood that Face-time chats were difficult for Matthew. He had begun to struggle with virtual school during the day, without the benefit of hands-on assistance he normally had in school. Joanna created a routine with Matthew that she maintained during each visit, whether in-person or virtual. She asked him three questions. The questions would vary depending on his behaviors that day, or if a parent/child visit would take place but one question always remained the same, “What do you need?” Matthew came to rely on Joanna for her patience and her willingness to allow him to be comfortable in his own space. Her questions were always open-ended and he responded openly and honestly. He’d tell her about his day, the reasons he may have acted out, what he was feeling. He told Joanna about his visits with his parents and his likes and dislikes. This extremely introverted child, who is diagnosed with autism, found someone who was able to connect with him and continue the connection, despite no longer being able to see each other in person. 

Eventually Matthew’s mother became stable enough that he was placed back into her home. The court granted Permanent Managing Conservatorship to Matthew’s grandmother, with whom his mother lived. Thank you, Joanna, for the lasting impacts you have made by patiently connecting with Matthew, listening to his needs, and advocating for his best interests!