April Story of Hope: Gabby & Lilly

Advocate Impact Story

Monique Thibodeaux was sworn in as a CASA advocate in June of 2019. She became the advocate to two young girls, Gabby (13) and Lilly (10), in September of 2019. Once she was assigned she quickly went to work and began making contact with family, CPS, attorneys, and of course, the girls. The two children were brought into care due to alleged physical abuse by their mom; Gabby was seen with bruises on her legs, shoulders, and wrists, and domestic violence between mom and her paramour. The children were placed with their maternal grandmother in August of 2019 at the time of removal. The case was accepted into Family Drug Court which is a specialty court that works with the parents that suffer from drug or alcohol addiction very extensively. During the Drug Court monitoring, Monique was in attendance to every court hearing and apart of every staffing that drug court held. Monique shared her observations and objective opinions on the children.

From the beginning of the case, the mother did not seem to be really be engaged or eager to work the services to get her children back. She was eventually expelled from drug court for not cooperating with the services being asked of her by the judge. At this time Gabby was having some behavioral issues at school for fighting and Lilly had an incident where she had in-school suspension and she was a victim of bullying.    

Grandma would communicate with Monique asking for help or suggestions on what to do with the girl’s behavior in school. Monique came up with alternatives and asked CPS and her CASA supervisor for guidance as she did not want a placement breakdown. Monique kept in contact with Lilly and Gabby more often than the once a month requirement and formed a great relationship with the two girls. In order to provide the court with the most accurate information, Monique followed up and had great communication with therapist, attorneys, family members, teachers, caseworkers, and case managers. 

During the last few months before trial it seemed that Gabby was having more and more behavioral problems that ended up causing her to have severe bouts of suicidal thoughts and self-harm, which in turn led to her being hospitalized numerous times. Monique visited and spoke to her on a weekly basis at every new RTC or hospital she was placed at. She constantly communicated with CPS, the Ad Litem, and her supervisor to keep them updated on Gabby’s status and also tried to come with a plan to get her rehabilitated. This was also around the time that Gabby had been communicating with her mother which is believed to have caused her to have those emotions. 

The case initially went to trial in January 2021 but the mother’s attorney wanted more time for his client. The mother did not believe that she should lose the rights to her children even though she did not complete her Family Plan of Service. The judge decided he wanted the mother and the grandmother to attend a family counseling session together. The trial was reset for February 2021 and mom testified that it would be in her daughter’s best interest if she relinquished her rights and allowed her mother to adopt the girls. The mother testified that she knew they were in a better home and that her mother would take good care of them. 

Gabby is still currently placed at an RTC and is doing so much better than any placement or psychiatric hospital she’d be in. She has a long way to go but Grandma and Monique are very hopeful that she will be home soon and join her little sister Lilly, who is thriving and doing so well in school. Thanks to Monique’s consistent and constant communication even to this day, the girls have someone to give them a voice when they didn’t believe they had one. 



By bfines 11 Apr, 2024
In the heart of San Antonio, a story of resilience and hope unfolds, illustrating the profound impact of a CASA advocate on the lives of children navigating the complexities of the child protective services system. This story centers on two siblings, a brother (14) and a sister (16), living in circumstances no child should ever face. They endured years of neglect and physical abuse while under the care of their elderly grandparents and delinquent parents, their young lives clouded by despair, uncertainty, and unspeakable trauma—including their mother's death and father's incarceration when CPS assumed custody. Enter CASA, a beacon of hope and advocacy in a tumultuous time as they navigated life in unfamiliar home and school surroundings, countless rules and regulations, investigative personnel, doctors, psychiatrists, counselors, social workers, lawyers, and court appearances. A CASA volunteer was appointed to the siblings' case, marking the beginning of a transformative journey for the children and everyone involved in their path to healing and stability. The children's CASA advocate profoundly understood that trust is the cornerstone of recovery for children. As such, the advocate approached the siblings gently and consistently, offering them a sense of safety and predictability they had long been missing. Through regular visits, attentive listening, and the simple act of being there, she slowly but surely began rebuilding the trust their previous experiences had shattered. One of the advocate's primary goals was to ensure that the siblings were placed in a stable, nurturing home environment where they could thrive. The advocate worked tirelessly to advocate for their placement in a home that met their physical needs and provided a loving, supportive atmosphere. The advocate's strategic interventions and persistent advocacy in court were instrumental in their kinship placement with their uncle. He served as a lifeline and accepted the challenge of helping raise two teenagers when he had already raised three of his children. The home situation, however, was not without its share of difficulties. It was clear that the sister's prolonged childhood trauma proved to be a challenge. Upon her 18th birthday, she decided to leave the state's care and, subsequently, her uncle's home, determined to make it independently without support services. Within two and a half months, the sister requested extended care services from the state because she had no educational skills or means of support and had lost custody of her baby due to false reports made by the grandparents. She was lost and needed help. After a long and arduous journey to find housing for the sister, the CASA advocate rallied with the children's ad litem to secure a spot for her at Seton Home. She has since reunified with her two-year-old daughter, and both are thriving. School can be a sanctuary for children facing turmoil at home, offering structure, normalcy, and the opportunity for achievement. Unfortunately, the children's educational career was often interrupted or even derailed because of their involved trauma, which led to numerous absences, missed credits, and a general aversion to school. The CASA advocate collaborated closely with educators and school counselors to ensure the siblings received the needed academic and emotional support. This included individualized education plans to address learning gaps, counseling services to help them process their experiences, and extracurricular activities to foster their talents and interests. Through these efforts, the young man is thriving in a new school, and his sister is on her way to completing her GED. The dramatic change in their approach to schooling will ensure a future filled with possibilities. Perhaps the most profound role of the CASA advocate was that of an unwavering source of support—a shoulder to lean on during life's inevitable ups and downs. Whether celebrating academic achievements, offering encouragement through setbacks, or simply being a compassionate listener, the advocate was a constant presence in the siblings' lives, embodying the essence of hope and resilience. The journey of these siblings, the brother now 16 and the sister now 19, is a testament to the transformative power of strategic, compassionate advocacy. As they continue to heal and grow, their story serves as a beacon of hope for countless other children navigating childhood trauma. It underscores the critical importance of CASA volunteers and the indelible impact they can have on the lives of vulnerable children. In a world where despair can easily overshadow hope, these siblings' stories remind us of the incredible resilience of the human spirit and the power of dedicated individuals to ignite change. These children were given a chance at a better life and became a symbol of hope and perseverance for others in similar situations. As I share this story, please join me in celebrating the courage of these remarkable siblings and the CASA program's unwavering mission to ensure every child can thrive in a safe, loving, and supportive environment. This story is a call to action, a reminder of the difference one person can make in a child's life, and an invitation to become a part of this life-changing journey.  I am proud of my two CASA children—theirs is a story of hope. Sylvia R. Reyna, Ph.D.
By bfines 11 Apr, 2024
Stephanie Shokrian
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